Helping Couples Discover A 'New Normal'
It can be difficult walking through a difficult time in your marriage. Maybe you feel you need to hide your problems from your friends and family. Having the opportunity to talk with someone can provide perspective and valuable insight.
When we are isolated and alone trying to work on our marriage, the voice of shame can often get pretty loud. Communication is key to getting on the same page as a couple, and, having a couple like Tray and Melody who have experienced their own season of crisis, can offer you fresh perspective and insight into your specific situation.
Glean from the wisdom and insight of others who have done the hard work of fighting for intimacy in their marriages. The path to a ‘new normal’ as a couple is not easy, but definitely worth it.
Bring Our Marriage Conference To Your Church
The Perfectly Imperfect Marriage Conference helps couples discover deeper intimacy by giving men and women permission to come out of hiding in order to be fully known by their spouse. Tray and Melody share their redemptive story and help couples identify unhealthy expectations that can rob marriages of genuine intimacy. Couples who attend will gain a clearer picture of what a healthy relationship looks like and will be equipped with the tools to go from where they are now to where they want to be.
This is a condensed and accelerated jumpstart that will provide the maximum benefit for a couple who is trying to heal from the pain and trauma of infidelity. Tray and Melody help the couple gain perspective on the relational dynamics that have been a factor in the relationship and provide clear direction to get them to a deeper level of intimacy and connection than they ever imagined.
Drawing from their personal experiences as well as their work coaching hundreds of other couples, Tray and Melody provide a framework to help move a couple to a ‘new normal”. The Perfectly Imperfect Marriage Intensive is a one-on-one, consolidated weekend with Tray and Melody.
Undone Redone is Tray and Melody’s weekly podcast where they interview Philip Yancey, Randy Alcorn, Steve Brown, Dan Allender, John Lynch, William Paul Young, Michael John Cusick, Nate Larkin, Elyse Fitzpatrick, and many others about marriage, grace, recovery, and the wonderfully scandalous Gospel. The Undone Redone podcast talks the messiness of life…addiction and infidelity…grace and reconciliation…marriage and family…authenticity and faith. Tray and Mel are a couple that know a thing or two about messy and who are thrilled that their divorce did not work out!
The buttons below link to 3 podcast episodes that speak specifically to what a betrayed spouse is going through. Also, make sure you subscribe so that you do not miss an episode!
What People Are Saying
Every once in a while you stumble across one of those rare, transparent individuals that has nothing left to hide. And because they have nothing left to hide, they are safe. More than safe, they are dangerously safe. Traylor Lovvorn is one of those dangerously safe souls. A lion and a lamb lives inside this man. His life is a dramatic tale of brokenness and betrayal. From this broken place, a brave heart rose from the ashes. When a man has nothing left to hide or lose, he is free. If you seek freedom from stubborn sin and shame, Traylor knows the ancient path to the Savior. He found the cure for his wandering and wounded heart that helped me find home and healing in Christ. You never forget the face of those who rescue you. Traylor is an unforgettable man that will help you forget who you once were to remember who you really are. When you do, you’ll never be the same. Unchangeable circumstances changes character. As your character changes, who you are when no one is looking becomes the image of Christ everyone seeks. I see the beautifully broken and brave image of Christ in Traylor. I believe you will too.
Kevin DeVries ,
“We had the privilege of having Tray and Melody minister to our entire church family over a weekend conference. Not only do they have a wonderful story of redemption but it comes with a theology, resources, curriculum and love. They have developed a deep understanding of the human heart and the gospel of Christ. Probably what impressed me most was their interaction with staff, congregants and leaders when the lights and mics weren’t on. They were filled with grace, truth and understanding. I highly recommend Tray and Melody to help minister to your church.”
Andy Lewis ,
Tray and Melody are bringing much needed authenticity and healing to the church. The Undone Redone Marriage Conference is unique in that it creates an ongoing community of support and life change among your congregation. Their story is an amazing example of the gospel at work and gives men and women tangible hope for their future.
Jeff Murphy ,
Undone Redone takes the road less traveled: an authentic path to wholeness and recovery that avoids quick fixes and the seductive belief that both can be achieved without the power and grace of God.
Paul Coughlin ,
Undone Redone/Route1520 cuts holes in the darkness of one of the most ominous threats to peoples’ hearts and lives of our day. There are many behavioral approaches out there that will simply tell people to “stop sinning and all will be well”. Undone Redone/Route1520 gets beyond and behind the behavioral elements of sin and addresses the heart.
Bob Flayhart ,
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