HOPE & HEALING
You Are Safe and Not Alone
There is nothing that feels more lonely than walking through the devastation and shock of betrayal trauma. Few experiences create more pain than sexual betrayal whether it is virtual or physical. It’s heart wrenching to know that the person closest to you and is supposed to be safest for you is the source of your pain.
It creates confusion, chaos and an avalanche of emotions that can feel crippling. It also often silences us.
The irony of this is that while one relationship can feel like it breaks us into a million pieces that God brings other relationships to gently mend us back together and heal our broken hearts.
You have been through so much. You matter and your story matters.
There is something powerful when we share our stories with one another. All of a sudden we realize we are not alone.
We are listening…
There Is Life After Your Worst Day
The Life Beyond Betrayal online course is for women who have been blindsided by betrayal and/or infidelity. It is designed to provide a basic understanding of the very real trauma that accompanies betrayal and a basic plan to heal from it. It is designed as a first step in the healing journey from betrayal.
This online healing program can be done in as little as 30 days or can be spread out for as long as one would like. Each lesson is complete with a specific topic and coaching lesson, devotional, homework, helpful worksheets to process and to journal, music playlists and videos, and more to aid in the healing process. This program does not take the place of therapy, however, it does provide an excellent starting point or re-entry point for recovery and healing to take place following betrayal.
I know that betrayal is a sensitive issue. This process is going to stir up thoughts, emotions, and memories. I ask that each individual “trust the process”. The process of healing is not a quick fix formula and my goal is to provide a safe place to validate the pain caused by what you have been through. This course provides educational content to better understand the nature of betrayal as well as a course of treatment for betrayal and relationship trauma.
From Our Podcast
You are not alone.
This 3-day intensive is designed to help women understand the nature of what they are going through, validate and give voice to the disturbing emotions and the trauma symptoms following betrayal as well as putting a healing framework together. We will spend consolidated time working through the following information so that you don’t have to be taken out or get stuck on this healing journey:
- Explain the basics of Betrayal Trauma & PTSD symptoms
- Understanding Pornography & Sex Addiction
- Deception: Why it hurts so bad
- Identifying Loss & Working through Negative Emotions
- Obstacles to Healing
- Surviving Shame: Lies vs. Truth
- Next Steps & Practical Tools
This healing intensive is 3 days and consists of 20 hours of 1-on-1 time with Melody, a certified life and recovery coach.
Attendees will gain access to Melody’s online course, Life Beyond Betrayal, as a follow up resources that will provide on-going work as well as access to an online community of women.
Because these intensives are 1-on-1 with Melody and are booked on a first-come, first-served basis, please click the button below and email Melody directly with any questions you might have as well as dates that work in your schedule.
Undone Redone is Tray and Melody’s weekly podcast where they interview Philip Yancey, Randy Alcorn, Steve Brown, Dan Allender, John Lynch, William Paul Young, Michael John Cusick, Nate Larkin, Elyse Fitzpatrick, and many others about marriage, grace, recovery, and the wonderfully scandalous Gospel. The Undone Redone podcast talks the messiness of life…addiction and infidelity…grace and reconciliation…marriage and family…authenticity and faith. Tray and Mel are a couple that know a thing or two about messy and who are thrilled that their divorce did not work out!
The buttons below link to 3 podcast episodes that speak specifically to what a betrayed spouse is going through. Also, make sure you subscribe so that you do not miss an episode!
What People Are Saying
The Perfectly Imperfect Marriage Conference led by Tray and Melody Lovvorn was one of the best and most thorough marriage resources we’ve brought to our church. The combination of their courageous and yet humble sharing of their redemptive story and their wonderfully gifted communication of the Gospel, biblical wisdom and practical insights into marriage is fantastic. In a world of increasing sexual brokenness, Tray and Melody’s testimony and teaching are needed. Your church would benefit from the challenges, advice and solid Biblical teaching being offered by the Undone Redone Ministry.
Ross Langford ,
Every once in a while you stumble across one of those rare, transparent individuals that has nothing left to hide. And because they have nothing left to hide, they are safe. More than safe, they are dangerously safe. Traylor Lovvorn is one of those dangerously safe souls. A lion and a lamb lives inside this man. His life is a dramatic tale of brokenness and betrayal. From this broken place, a brave heart rose from the ashes. When a man has nothing left to hide or lose, he is free. If you seek freedom from stubborn sin and shame, Traylor knows the ancient path to the Savior. He found the cure for his wandering and wounded heart that helped me find home and healing in Christ. You never forget the face of those who rescue you. Traylor is an unforgettable man that will help you forget who you once were to remember who you really are. When you do, you’ll never be the same. Unchangeable circumstances changes character. As your character changes, who you are when no one is looking becomes the image of Christ everyone seeks. I see the beautifully broken and brave image of Christ in Traylor. I believe you will too.
Kevin DeVries ,
We had the privilege of having Tray and Melody minister to our entire church family over a weekend conference. Not only do they have a wonderful story of redemption but it comes with a theology, resources, curriculum and love. They have developed a deep understanding of the human heart and the gospel of Christ. Probably what impressed me most was their interaction with staff, congregants and leaders when the lights and mics weren’t on. They were filled with grace, truth and understanding. I highly recommend Tray and Melody to help minister to your church.
Andy Lewis ,
Tray and Melody are bringing much needed authenticity and healing to the church. The Undone Redone Marriage Conference is unique in that it creates an ongoing community of support and life change among your congregation. Their story is an amazing example of the gospel at work and gives men and women tangible hope for their future.
Jeff Murphy ,
Undone Redone takes the road less traveled: an authentic path to wholeness and recovery that avoids quick fixes and the seductive belief that both can be achieved without the power and grace of God.
Paul Coughlin ,
Undone Redone/Route1520 cuts holes in the darkness of one of the most ominous threats to peoples’ hearts and lives of our day. There are many behavioral approaches out there that will simply tell people to “stop sinning and all will be well”. Undone Redone/Route1520 gets beyond and behind the behavioral elements of sin and addresses the heart.
Bob Flayhart ,
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